He apologized for fading to black, and we were able to have an open, honest conversation.” “He thanked me for bringing levity to the situation. “After I sent him the poem, he contacted me right away,” Amberella said.
“I just wanted to open my heart up to a different outcome,” she said. So when the dude she met on Hinge - let’s call just him Pizza Guy - decided to bounce after four great dates, she was mentally prepared to deal with her emotions.
“If I knew a guy wasn’t a match, I sent a text right away: I loved the hike. “I didn’t want to be ghosted, so I didn’t put that energy out there,” she said. Even if she just had coffee with a guy who she realized she wasn’t that interested in, she’d go out of her way to tell him. “I didn’t want to entertain someone that wasn’t clear about wanting partnership as an end result,” she said.Īt the same time, she wanted to be a straight shooter. And when it came to dating, she decided she wanted to practice hot monogamy.
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Amberella spent a lot of time this past year working on her inner spirit, learning how to hold herself accountable, practicing integrity, and focusing on what her healthy needs are. These are the feelings Amberella was trying to avoid. If I knew a guy wasn’t a match, I sent a text right away.” Amberella “I didn’t want to be ghosted, so I didn’t put that energy out there. Most of the time it’s permanent because when you discard something, that’s pretty much the end of it. Hairstylists ghost us, too, as in all of a sudden your once always-available beautician has no more openings for the week, the month, or even the year.
We ghost our hairstylists, ignoring the Hey, where you been? texts. (I’m considering ghosting the unvaccinated.) This is why we ghost friends we stop seeing eye-to-eye with. Ghosting is a mechanism for people who don’t like confrontation, said Abbey Wexler, an associate professor of psychology at Philadelphia Community College. Lovers aren’t the only ones who practice the heartless art of ghosting. The art calling out ghosting was in its own way, ghosted. Someone - perhaps they were guilty of ghosting, themselves - painted over the haiku, leaving just the pizza with its little sausage hearts. Where’d Ya Go? only lasted a week in its fullest expression. The title of the poem was written inside of the heart, and underneath the heart was the poem.įellow street artist Nicole “Lace in the Moon” Nikolich crocheted a 5-foot tall slice of pepperoni-and-mushroom pizza, and some of Amberella’s smaller Goth Hearts were the pizza’s sausages. She pasted a large version of one of her signature Goth Hearts on the side of a vacant building at the corner of Frankford Avenue and Norris Street in Fishtown. Next Amberella, whose real name is Amber Lynn Thompson, turned the three-line poem into a piece of head-turning street art. Then she sent it to the man who did the ghosting: You sucked my melons/ We ate meat lovers pizza/ Did you get too full? Instead of retreating into her feelings and/or resorting to social media stalking - two things that, yes, I’m ashamed to say I’m guilty of - she took a brave, much more mature approach in her dealings with the guy who ghosted her.įirst she penned a haiku, titled Where’d Ya Go? I gotta say, popular Philly street artist Amberella is a far better woman than I am.
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